Monday, June 27, 2011

Working Mother



I picked up a book the other day at the library titled Mothers Work! Since I'll be trying to swing being a full-time student this fall, and manage the house and bond with the kid, I thought it would be a helpful read. After about 30 minutes, I gave up. The majority of the book was about how to handle guilt as a working mother. I decided that my time would be better spent actually being with my kid, and resting, rather than suffering through 300 pages on how to tackle guilt.


Having said that, I'm sure the guilt will hit full-force when school starts this fall. It's something I think every mother suffers with. Even when I'm with her, I feel like I could do more for her, that she should be my single thought and every action should be for her. Then she'll start screaming to play at someone else's house, and the feeling leaves very quickly.












Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Home Touches





I have a problem. No matter how hard I wish and try, I can't keep any plants alive. I've lost count of the number of times I've bought lovely, whimsical flowers for our patio, only to have them die within a few weeks. Like I keep explaining to Mike, it's not so much about the flowers. To me, flowers make a home. They're a sign to the outside world of "A family lives and flourishes here."






So, since my lovely pink cosmos gave up the ghost this week, I'll have to find some other way to make our apartment feel like a home. Here are some of my recent favourites:






Painted Piano: Even though I can barely tinkle out a hymn, a piano is definately a statement piece for a home -- especially when it's lovely and green.







Log Cabin Quilt in frames: Don't these remind you of Mom's quilts? But in a modern, sleek way?







Pantry Redo: I especially dig the baking trolley with the KitchenAid Mixer! When I eventually have a mixer and pantry, you better believe we'll be rocking the trolley idea.














What little things make your apartment more 'homey'?







Tuesday, June 21, 2011

How do you do, Summer?

June 21, the longest day of the year, and the first official day of summer. My favorite all-time long summer days were spent in St. Petersburg, Russia, where the 10pm sun was as bright and magical as a 5pm California sun. And when the days are espeically long, locals and tourists alike converge along the Neva River about 2am to watch the bridges go up, the boats and barges pass by, and the bridges go down. It's truly magical, these "White Nights", as the sun stays in a twilight trance for most of the night (and the guitar music from drunken musicians only add to the ambiance.) You can read a little bit more about it here.


{Ahhh...Petersburg}


Hmmm...what could be my Bay Area variation? Maybe next June 21 we can find ourselves sitting on a bench along the Marina in San Francisco, watching the sail boats and barges come under the Golden Gate Bridge. And perhaps we can stop by a Russian bakery on our way, to pick up some authentic treats to enjoy as we celebrate our American version of White Nights.




{The Marina, San Francisco, and the Golden Gate Bridge}

Monday, June 20, 2011

Father's Day







Happy Father's Day! We celebrated our favourite Daddy today by having my amazing chilli (seriously, I'm not tooting my own horn, it's just plain amazing), homemade cornbread, and quasi-homemade cookies and cream ice cream on cones. We were supposed to be making the amazing cookies and cream cake, but I was a numpty and bought single cream instead of double cream. As anyone knows, you can't whip single cream! Silly. Anyways, at the last moment I decided to chuck the cookies in the blender with some store-bought vanilla ice cream, then re-froze the concotion. I think it turned out pretty well. I think our little party enjoyed it as well (it's the only think Molly willingly ate today).











For Mike's present we bought him a special guitar pick -- since he's our rocker boy. He was also treated to a massive toblerone, that said "Dad of the Year" Happy Father's Day!

Friday, June 17, 2011

To Do - Friday, June 17

On my to-do list for today:

1. Ack! It's Father's Day on Sunday. Would be fun (and oh-so appropriate!) to make shirts like this. But time is short. But I really should find a recipe for an awesome chocolate cake.

2. Go to friend's to pick up the air mattress we're borrowing for tonight's camping trip.

3. Oh yah, I have to work today.

4. Dress G up in his swim trunks and "stud muffin" rash guard -- it's water-play day at his school! Hooray for summer!




{Like I was saying about the nut and the tree...these two are HILARIOUS together! (That's tape on their noses.) It's good to have a daddy.}

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Re: Childcare?

Hey Mum,

Oh man...this is such a hard topic. I looked at about 6 or 7 day care centers before I settled on the one that G is currently at. This center happens to be a company that contracts with my employer, so he's close to my office, but that was actually the last place we visited.

Fortunately, I feel that G's care providers are an extension of our family, and the center has become an extension of our home, as we partner together to nurture and teach G. (The tricky part is that if I were to leave my current job, we'd have to find alternate childcare, many options of which seem sub par. This a little stiffling from a career perspective. Sigh. That's a topic for another day.)

Here are some things I've learned in the past 1 1/2 years that G's been in daycare:

1 Go with a daycare/nanny where the caregivers look like they're enjoying their job. Some day cares I went to seemed depressing, the staff was underpaid and disgruntled. Not the type of person I want taking care of my baby.

2 Do they have their policies written/printed/posted online that they can easily share and articulate?

3 How clean is the facility? What condition is the equipment in? Some places I visited, the toys and play structures seemed to be falling apart, the crib rail was held up with a plastic tie. Not good.

4 What is the ratio of caregiver to child? (1:4 seems to be average around here for babies and toddlers. Once they hit age 2, it's higher than that. I don't have the numbers on hand, but there are federal regulations here mandating what the ratios should be.)

5 What kind of training have the caregivers had? I think that in Calif that 12 hours of training are required...but I assumed that was 12 hours of college courses (maybe 3-4 courses?) but at one place I went to, it seemed like they had literally just 12 hours of training, like a crash course in CPR and infant/toddler care. Obviously, there's a difference between 12-college course hours and 12 hours of a crash course in child care.

6 What kind of turnover has there been for the teachers?

7 What is their policy for keeping things sanitized? Again, some day cares seemed better about this than others. Children are certainly going to put toys in their mouths. How do they prevent spreading germs? Are parents and kids asked to wash their hands before entering the room? Do we remove our shoes or put on booties before entering? Do the teachers wear plastic gloves when changing diapers?

8 Food? What do you need to bring from home? How do they require things to be labeled so that your child is not accidentally given another's bottle/food?

9 Can the day care articulate what they do with the children during the day? Do they have a curriculum, or is it mostly chaperoned play time? Some places I visited kind of said, "Ummm..." when I asked what my 6-mos old would be doing. Others had activities and curriculum and songs and weekly themes. Even though, at the time, G could only sit and roll over, I still expected that they interact with him and he wouldn't just be sitting there all day.

10 Sleeping arrangements -- will your child have her own crib at the center? Who provides the bedding? How often is it changed?

11 What is their sick policy? How do they define "sick"? Is the sick child removed from the others so as to not spread the infection until they're picked up? Do they notify the parents of the other children when a child is sick? Do they have to stay home for 24 hours symptom free?

12 If you need to cancel the day care service, what is their policy? 30 days notice in writing?

13 Are you able to stop in and see your child at any time?

14 Does the center provide a written report at the end of the day, outlining what your child ate, diapers (wet and BM), naps? (I find this info vital and review it carefully at the end of each day, looking for trends or things that seem different.)

15 What is the center's approach to discipline? If your child were to be bullied, how would they address it? Or what if your child were the bully, how would they address it?

16 How can parents work with the teachers and administration when they have a concern? What is the center's policy for how they'll respond?

17 Go for a day care option closer to your work? Or closer to home?

18 Do the caregivers speak English well? Some people near us are really proud of their center that has native Mandarin, Spanish, Russian, etc. teachers who teach in a language-immersion type setting. That sounds really great, but because I don't speak those languages, I want to make sure that their English is also good enough that we can discuss concerns. There was one center I looked at where we had a hard time getting past, "My son's name is G...". Hmmm...

19 I've heard that some day cares will negotiate on price, considering this economy and that enrollment at some centers has been down (I have a co-worker who negotiated). Definitely worth asking about.

20 Are there any reviews of the daycare online? Are there other parents you could ask re: their experiences there?

21 Does it seem like the other children at the center enjoy being there?

22 Does it seem like the center wants your business? Hopefully when you do a tour, they're trying to make a good first impression.

23 How do they report accidents?

24 Have background checks been performed on the center staff?

25 Has the staff been trained in CPR and first aid?


This is a lot of info! I hope this helps as you're evaluating different centers, and I'm sure you'll have additional questions to add to your list as well. Keep me posted about what you decide, and I'm always happy to act as a sounding wall as well.

xoxo!

Monday, June 13, 2011

Childcare?



So, Mom, I know you use your nursery at work, but what did you look for when choosing childcare? I'm at nearly my rope's end trying to find a suitable place for Molly. Here's my list:

- I want the staff to be presentable (have most of their teeth, no tongue rings, good hygiene)

- I want the nursery to be reasonably clean -- if I can smell the disinfectant from the car park, fantastic

- I don't want there to be a million kids. Molly isn't shy, but she could get lost in the crowd!


Here's where I'd like to send her, but it would be stretching our budget a bit. I toured it a few weeks ago. It's brand-new, has chandeliers, designer wallpaper, all oak furniture imported from Sweden -- yes, I am that shallow. But I also love the staff and the curriculum they've set up. They even bake with the children in their classroom using a special kitchen. Maybe when Molly's 30 we'll be able to afford it.






Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Holiday?

Ohhh...so I'm curious! Where are popular places for Brits to take a holiday? For us West Coasters, the hot spots are Hawaii and Mexico (or was Mexico...before the drugs and violence gave it a bad rap). For East Coasters, it's the Bahamas and Caribbean. Europe's popular too, but obviously more of a jaunt.

Life List Entries

1. Go on a cattle drive (like the movie City Slickers!)
2. Live in a foreign country for a year (Hmmm...France, Italy, England)
3. Own a lake house
4. Be really awesome at making pie crust from scratch (my delicioso strawberry-rhubarb pie last weekend is a step toward earning me the "pie lady" title!)
5. Visit Cape Cod
6. Do one of those morning boot camp exercise classes
7. See U2 in concert (They're playing tonight in Oakland...Hubster has tickets, but we couldn't find a babysitter. I'll have to catch them next time.)

{This lake house will do. ;) Check out additional dreamy photos here.}

Holiday?



I think I need a holiday. Everyone in the UK is starting to talk about where they are going, and it seems most of our friends are destined for sunny countries with nice beaches.


Not us. I'm beginning to seriously wonder if we'll ever get a holiday again. Everyone takes a holiday in the UK -- especially since most people have at least 30 days of annual leave.


So, today when the babysitter didn't show up, and our shower is still leaking, and I'm struggling to finish x, y, and z, I'm dreaming of going here...









Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Garscube Playrooms





One of our favourite places to visit is the Garscube Playrooms. The Playrooms are run by the local community and include an art room, toy/imagination room, and a soft-play. Molly loves going to play for the morning, having a lunch break, and then playing for a bit more before nap-time. She was in a 'blue mood' at the Playrooms in the photo on the left.


I'm excited to be holding a fundraiser for Garscube Playrooms. I'll be offering a baby and a toddler music class on 9 June. Tickets will be £1, and all profits will go directly to help fund a new soft play.





Contact me for details!




Garscube Playrooms details here












Molly in a 'blue mood' at the Playrooms.




Garscube Playrooms information

Word of the Day: Blow Dryer

As in, G's favorite thing these days. Seriously. He asks for it first thing in the morning, and he asks for it while we're on our way back home at the end of the day. Good thing we have an extra one, that's broken anyway. He pretends to do his own hair, or mine, but he also puts it in the cab of his cement mixer truck, playing with it like any other toy. Awesomeness.

{A typical morning these days.}